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Maintenance/reminder spankings I enjoy a bit and at least respect them for the fact you always follow through with them on schedule even if this is 40 minutes or whatever you’d rather spend doing something else. They hurt, but they’re extremely an extremely intimate moment, a bonding experience and reaffirmation of our roles The emotional and stress release provided by them is something more women I’d wish would at least give a try. It’s the ultimate catharsis.(No really you should, you don’t need to be in any type of perpetual owner/owned relationship or anything, although maintenance spankings are most frequently used in domestic discipline which generally has a dominant and submissive partner, though not at the extent usually seen in bdsm circles)
Discipline spankings I don’t like, I don’t think anyone does. They hurt, not only because they’re obviously the hardest but most of time unless you disagree you did something wrong you’re also wracked with a feeling of guilt over letting your partner down or not living up to standards you set for yourself. On top of it you never know how long, how hard or with what they’re going to whack away at your butt with. But these in itself are a bit of a catharsis, they’re an absolution from sin if you will. A power willfully given over to a partner because we seek that authority, and that helping hand(pun intended) to make up not only a better partner, but a better person to ourselves, and being able to fully appreciate your dominance that I seek out.
But erotic spankings, those light ones, the ones are often punctuated with “good girl” every now and then, oh god those spanks. Your butt and mind become so use to taking hard assaults on your butt, letting tears flow, trying desperately not to move too much, that you almost don’t know how to react to them. It just sends shivers and goosebumps around me, my brain is essentially waiting in anticipation for that serious whack that will never actually come, and as such I just melt into a sensual pool of desire. Subs, never underestimate the ability of a strong arm to deliver discipline, doms, never underestimate the ability of a soft hand to raise desire.
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